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Publishing my current levels of anxiety, depression and addictiveness to expose the “inverse stigma” of powerholders negatively impacting my wellbeing. Then inviting those powerholders to seize the opportunity to shift negative impacts into positive ones. And receive credit for their improved efficacy serving their constituents, to improve their branding.
Follow the process from normalized perpetuating of problems, pathology and pain to cultivating mutual support for each other's affected needs. For greater wellness of us all.

Holistic wellness
Holistic wellness includes impacts from those in positions of authority; disingenuous, privileged avoidance/alienation
invert stigma from - preventative mental health - allostatic load by addressing its source, intellectually honest to
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the term "mental illness" serves as a synecdoche. Like the phrase "boots on the ground" or "hired hand", a portion refers to the whole thing. Unwellness occurs in part in one's mental processes, but cannot occur exclusively in one's thinking.
As overwhelming external pressures decline, wellness measurably improves. Powerholders incentivized to support
If powerholders can negatively impact such needs, we can turn this around to positively impact them and earn credit.
Disagree mental health depends on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Self-reported
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Disagree mental health depends on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Standard understanding
The conventional psychological explanation for cravings generally emphasizes the personal behavior aspect. When overlooking external factors beyond your personal control, you risk becoming vainly ashamed of your obsessive cravings.
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​Need-response counters with a holistic approach that balances internal with external contributors to addictive cravings.

Addictiveness
Addictiveness refers to any obsessive cravings, whether you act upon them or not. You can be free from any addiction and still feel overwhelmed by desires.
Holistic understanding​​
Anankelogy appreciates how constant cravings include a social element. Wellness is psychosocial.
The less you can resolve your needs because of sociocultural barriers, the more those unmet needs will opt for whatever can alleviate the desperate, unfulfilled desire. Addictions may result.
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There is no such thing as desire apart from the need to replenish something depleted.
Disagree cravings depend on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Standard understanding
The conventional psychological explanation for anxiety generally emphasizes the personal behavior aspect. When overlooking external factors beyond your personal control, you risk becoming needlessly ashamed of your incapacity to handle threats.
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​Need-response counters with a holistic approach that balances internal with external contributors to painful anxiety.

Anxiety
Anankelogy defines anxiety as the body warning you that you are faced with some threat which you are not sure how to effectively handle.
Holistic understanding​​
Anankelogy appreciates how anxiety primarily involves a social element. Wellness is psychosocial.
The less you can safely handle threats presented by those in power over you, the more likely you play it safe and tolerate the increasingly intolerable. Paralyzing anxieties may soon follow.
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There is no such thing as pain apart from the need to remove some threat.
Disagree anxiety depends on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Standard understanding
The conventional psychological explanation for depression generally emphasizes the personal behavior aspect. When overlooking external factors beyond your personal control, you risk becoming unnecessarily ashamed for feeling immobilized.
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​Need-response counters with a holistic approach that balances internal with external contributors to immobilizing depression.

Depression
Anankelogy defines depression as redirecting your energy from outward social foci toward an inward, neglected personal focus.
Holistic understanding​​
Anankelogy appreciates how depression includes a social element. Wellness is psychosocial.
The less you adequately nurture yourself, the more likely your body will deny you energy to give away. That's a threat to your wellbeing. Immobilization may soon force you to take a self-replenishing rest.
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There is no such thing as pain apart from the need to remove some threat.
Disagree depression depends on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Independent measures
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Disagree mental health depends on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Standard understanding
The conventional psychological explanation for cravings generally emphasizes the personal behavior aspect. When overlooking external factors beyond your personal control, you risk becoming vainly ashamed of your obsessive cravings.
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​Need-response counters with a holistic approach that balances internal with external contributors to addictive cravings.

Addictiveness
Addictiveness refers to any obsessive cravings, whether you act upon them or not. You can be free from any addiction and still feel overwhelmed by desires.
Holistic understanding​​
Anankelogy appreciates how constant cravings include a social element. Wellness is psychosocial.
The less you can resolve your needs because of sociocultural barriers, the more those unmet needs will opt for whatever can alleviate the desperate, unfulfilled desire. Addictions may result.
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There is no such thing as desire apart from the need to replenish something depleted.
Disagree cravings depend on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Standard understanding
The conventional psychological explanation for anxiety generally emphasizes the personal behavior aspect. When overlooking external factors beyond your personal control, you risk becoming needlessly ashamed of your incapacity to handle threats.
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​Need-response counters with a holistic approach that balances internal with external contributors to painful anxiety.

Anxiety
Anankelogy defines anxiety as the body warning you that you are faced with some threat which you are not sure how to effectively handle.
Holistic understanding​​
Anankelogy appreciates how anxiety primarily involves a social element. Wellness is psychosocial.
The less you can safely handle threats presented by those in power over you, the more likely you play it safe and tolerate the increasingly intolerable. Paralyzing anxieties may soon follow.
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There is no such thing as pain apart from the need to remove some threat.
Disagree anxiety depends on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Standard understanding
The conventional psychological explanation for depression generally emphasizes the personal behavior aspect. When overlooking external factors beyond your personal control, you risk becoming unnecessarily ashamed for feeling immobilized.
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​Need-response counters with a holistic approach that balances internal with external contributors to immobilizing depression.

Depression
Anankelogy defines depression as redirecting your energy from outward social foci toward an inward, neglected personal focus.
Holistic understanding​​
Anankelogy appreciates how depression includes a social element. Wellness is psychosocial.
The less you adequately nurture yourself, the more likely your body will deny you energy to give away. That's a threat to your wellbeing. Immobilization may soon force you to take a self-replenishing rest.
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There is no such thing as pain apart from the need to remove some threat.
Disagree depression depends on both internal and external factors? Feel free to provide disconfirming evidence.
Your "I-need" messages
Rarely, do those exploiting the vulnerable realize the aggregate impact from others also exploiting the vulnerable. Eventually, the exploiters suffer some of the consequences. Until now.
Instead of keeping their needs private, they post their public facing needs for all to see. To then hold the powerful accountable for their impact on their wear and tear.
Not to confront them, but to offer this unique opportunity to improve their own responsiveness to such needs. To improve their professional brand. We drop adversarialism to make room for our mutuality process.
Your need-responsive interactions
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While no one sits above the law, no law sits above the inflexible needs they exist to serve.
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Here, we fit laws to the needs they ostensibly exist to serve.
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Assumption Testing
Almost all of our beliefs include some error. Most of the time, such errors remain insignificant. But occasionally, acting upon inaccurate assumptions can cause trouble. Sometimes more for others you impact than for yourself.
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Those in a position of power tend to hold onto unchecked assumptions harmful to those they impact. It can be safer for the relatively vulnerable to tolerate such errant assumptions than risk threats when speaking up.
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This service instills the discipline of critical thinking to test our comforting beliefs.
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This process checks each other's assumptions using the tools of artificial intelligence. Open the AI tool of your choice and type in the phrase "critique the assumption that" and follow with the assumption you or others take for granted. Here are some impactful examples using Google's Gemini AI.
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Critique the assumption that...
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people choose their political values from rational choice reasoning
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empathizing with both sides of a debate is bothsidesism or false moral equivalency
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emotions bias our thinking (actually, desperate needs prioritize relief-seeking, conveyed in emotions)
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the adversarial judicial system rarely convicts an innocent person
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​conflicts are a zero-sum outcome in which only one side can win
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we must have law and order to keep our depraved natures in check
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mental health occurs primarily in one's mind and in one's chosen behaviors
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morality is relative, so individuals must decide what is right and wrong on their own
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we must focus on individual deviation from behavioral norms since these are enough to sustain wellness
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wellness can be achieved by relieving pain without trying to understand what prompted the pain​​​
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we must maintain law and order for a functioning society
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political platforms will provide satisfying results for my life
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people are generally stupid
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people are typically gullible and easily persuaded
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people are generally untrustworthy
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people would lie, cheat and steal if it wasn't for law enforcement
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law enforcement keep the public safe
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you can change someone's political stance with the right persuasive argument
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Testing your untested assumptions
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​Powerholders acting on such poor assumptions risk exacting value from the relatively less powerful. Which undermines the powerholder's legitimacy.
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Disingenuous democracy
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From adversarial law to mutual principle
The adversarial law-based approach tends to favor those with better access to legal services. Gaining a legal win at the expense of the less privileged provides a short-term gain that cannot last, since inflexible needs will assert themselves. ​Both sides waste resources better invested in mutual understanding and support, to nurture the wellness of us all.
By what authority?
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This mutuality process, as a viable alternative to the bias-riddled adversarial legal process, offers to restore legitimacy. By measurably earning trustworthiness, when cooperatively supporting the need-messenger's identified need(s).
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Next, improve your branding by demonstrating efficacy in enabling the need-messenger to resolve the identified need.
From adversarial law to mutual principle
The adversarial law-based approach tends to favor those with better access to legal services. Gaining a legal win at the expense of the less privileged provides a short-term gain that cannot last, since inflexible needs will assert themselves. ​Both sides waste resources better invested in mutual understanding and support, to nurture the wellness of us all.
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Exaction Invoice
Impacted needs
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Anxiety costs
$169
Needs
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3 needs
$507.00
Depression costs
$102
3 needs
$306.00
Addictiveness costs
$90
3 needs
$270.00
Other costs
$163
3 needs
$489.00
Total
$1.572.00
This is not a bill. This conveys the hidden costs imposed, compromising efficacy. Follow the process here.
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Rated responsiveness
We rate each other's responsiveness to needs, starting with the need-messenger's need for you to acknowledge their "I-need" message.
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Earned legitimacy
Anankelogy, the study of need, distinguishes between
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manipulable "ascribed legitimacy" and
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evidence-based "earned legitimacy".
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Liberty Commitment
​By liberty, we mean "the freedom to fully resolve our needs in ways with minimal or no negative impact upon the needs of others". In other words, to properly resolve needs essential to sustain wellness and remove cause for debilitating pain
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Properly resolve needs​
Commitment to wellness​
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Mutuality over adversarialism​​
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Incentivized good faith intent​​
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Earned legitimacy​​
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Best practices for competitive advantage​
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Free impact data​​
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Resolution of needs (path/plan)​​
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Credit for contributing to improved outcomes​
​Contribute to our preventative mental health and receive credit
Proceeding responsiveness to inflexible needs
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NRI: Need Response Introduction.
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NOI: Notice of Intent to properly resolve needs.
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MOU: Memorandum of Understanding to
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NRA: Need Response Action to
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Welcome to the “I-need” message service. You recently received an expressed need from SENDER’S NAME.
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Thank you for promptly acknowledging receipt of this new way to improve relations. The more we know what each other specifically needs, the better we can relate to each other.
They await your reply to the substance of the need itself, as expressed here:
“I need you to _____________________________________________.”
You can reply with one of these options:
1. Firm yes. You can help them address this need now or very soon.
2. Soft yes. You might be able to help them with this need if you had more information.
3. Equivocal. You remain uncertain if you can help them with this need or not.
4. Soft no. You cannot help them with this need at this time.
5. Firm no. You cannot help them with this need indefinitely.
No reply will be interpreted as a Firm no.
But we anticipate you will choose one of these options to sustain mutual rapport, for when you are in need and require their support. Thank you for utilizing this service.
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Mutuality invitation
Leaving the ordinary world of toxic legalism
The standard adversarial legal process generally seeks
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to oppose one another
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to endure diminished ability to function and
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to relieve the resulting pain. Is this the justice you seek?
This typically neglects the unmet needs prompting the pain, while diminishing each other's full potential. This risks trapping each other in diminished wellness and pain. Is that what you want?
The more this contacted powerholder agrees to shift from such an adversarial approach, the more confidently the need-messenger can let go of their standard adversarial options.

Entering the special world of mutual regard
The mutuality process specifically equips both sides
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to resolve needs
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to restore wellness and
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to remove pain.
Why provoke each other's defensiveness? Instead, we can mutually replace hostile activism with engaging "responsivism" that incentivizes social love toward each other. Instead of disappointing toxic legalism, we find more satisfaction applying universal principles we call "character refunctions."
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Join us in dropping what no longer effectively serves its purpose. Leave the ordinary world of failing institutions to enter the special world of mutual regard for each other.
We easily compromise each other's wellness when reacting to conflicts with such adversarial options. Why not first try to understand what each other needs? If resisting such overtures, then we may return to these.
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So let's save these as options B in case our options A of mutual regard go nowhere.
Empirical evil. Since natural needs exist as a natural fact, as objective phenomon indendent of their perception, we recognize evil can have an objective element independet of moral beliefs. ​
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Prioritize universal principles over relative norms
Instead of disappointing toxic legalism, we find more satisfaction applying universal principles we call "character refunctions." Check the box if you envision how this problem can be resolved by applying more of this principle.
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Need-response exchanges: 4 interactive levels
PERSONAL
For improving your interactions with your closest friends and family members.
SOCIAL
For improving your interactions with colleagues, coworkers and other peers.
PROFESSIONAL
For improving your interactions with professionals who hold some level of control over you.
OFFICIAL
For improving your interactions with government personnel and official entities.
Click the tabs of the powerholder entities above to follow this program's development.
Law-Fit. Fit any relevant norms to the needs they ostensibly exist to serve. While no one sits above the law, no law sits above the needs it exists to serve. Laws are relatively arbitrary, while inflexible needs remain objective.
Wellness easily declines where law or authority imposes upon inflexible needs. This process prioritizes inflexible needs over flexible norms, for the benefit of all involved.​
Exaction Invoice
Impacted needs
M
Anxiety costs
$169
Depression costs
$102
Addictiveness costs
$90
Other costs
$163
Needs
X
3 needs
$507.00
3 needs
$306.00
3 needs
$270.00
3 needs
$489.00
Total
$1.572.00
This is not a bill. This conveys the hidden costs imposed, compromising efficacy. Follow the process here.
Liberty Commitment
​By liberty, we mean "the freedom to fully resolve our needs in ways with minimal or no negative impact upon the needs of others".
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Properly resolve needs
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Commitment to wellness
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Mutuality over adversarialism
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Incentivized good faith intent
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Earned legitimacy
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